Warning Signs

“Warning Signs”, is my memoir about intimate partner violence (IPV), a subset of domestic violence (DV). It reads as though it is a fast-paced romance adventure story, but after every chapter there is a Warning Signs section that explains the domestic violence that was actually occurring. I am not only a DV survivor, but I am a therapist with extensive training in domestic violence principles; which I share in these Warning Signs chapters. My hope is that this book can teach people the warning signs so that people can: 1) Not enter abusive relationships; 2) Leave if they are in them; 3) Help people notice if someone is in an abusive relationship, and then teach them the warning signs so they leave; 4) Help people whose loved ones have experienced abuse understand what happened and why it was hard for them to see the signs and leave; and 5) Create a global discussion so that we can change these patterns, so as a society we can work toward ending abuse. As a community of people reading this book and people that care about survivors, I hope that we can help people make smart decisions. Share your thoughts and stories using #WarningSigns so we can grow together.

This is the second book in the “Warning Sign” series, which helps people learn the warning signs of intimate partner violence (IPV) and domestic violence (DV). In this volume, I write about our marriage and how it felt, the good times and the bad. In these warning signs sections, you will learn about trauma bonding and other reasons people stay in abusive relationships. The important message is that people stay in these relationships for a variety of reasons, and we should never judge someone for making the choice to stay. People will leave when they are ready and when they are safe to leave. Share your thoughts and stories using #WarningSigns so we can grow together.

This volume will show how I began to see the abuse that was occurring, started questioning my trust in him, and found the courage to leave. It also depicts how people cope with the emotional abuse and inner turmoil of it all, how people leave, and how people grow afterward. Share your thoughts and stories using #WarningSigns so we can grow together.

I wrote this book to help people learn the warning signs of intimate partner violence (IPV) and domestic violence (DV). This is my personal story of enduring abuse and how I eventually left. After each chapter in the story, there is a section called "warning signs" that discusses the warning signs of abuse that I did not see at the time, to help people see the signs in the context of abuse as it occurs and learn about how it happens. As a community of people reading this book and people that care about DV and IPV survivors, I hope that we can help people make smart decisions. Share your thoughts and stories using #WarningSigns so we can grow together.