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Adultery destroys marriages, families, and faith. This book provides a direct, honest, and practical approach to facing it.Using the story of David and Bathsheba as a central case study, it combines biblical truth with modern counselling models. It shows you why people cheat, how it begins, and the harm it causes. It separates male and female motives, incorporates statistics, and draws on both Jungian and Freudian insights.Inside you will find:• Reasons men and women betray their spouses• Warning signs and false flags to watch for• The role of flirting, secrecy, and third parties• How affairs move from temptation to action• The pain of lying and hiding• The scars left behind, including PTSD and flashbacks• The impact on children, and how to help them heal• The risk of pregnancy, STDs, and AIDS• The role of shame, blackmail, and manipulationYou will also learn how to respond:• A biblical counselling model for healing and restoration• Whether full details of the affair should be revealed• How to forgive and how to rebuild trust• How to protect your marriage from adultery in the future• How to bring children into the healing process without making them carry blame• Practical steps for couples to rebuild communication and intimacyThis book is more than a self-help guide. It is a manual for couples, pastors, and counsellors who want to face betrayal with courage, truth, and hope.The final chapters give a way forward. They include biblical promises, psychological tools like the Kubler-Ross acceptance model, and practical exercises. Hope is not lost. Marriages can be rebuilt. Families can be restored.If you are facing betrayal, counselling couples, or want to guard your marriage against temptation, this book will give you the structure and wisdom to move from brokenness to restoration. Carl Davis holds a Doctorate in Missiology based upon research of Organizational Growth in the Post Modern Society.I started my work life serving in the South African Defence Force – first at the Recruiting Division, then moving to a Medical Command where I served as a Generalist Personnel Officer. For the last two years of my service, I was tasked with the Personnel management of the Integration process, inclusive of entrance and exit strategies.After honorable discharge after more than 10 years in the South African Defence Force, I took up the post of Managing Director of a Non-Government Organization, established to uplift impoverished communities in and around Potchefstroom, while also appointed as a part-time lecturer of undergraduates (specifically on leadership).Three years later I was appointed as Rector, managing an Educational Institute with 4000 students spread over 36 African countries. While in this position I had the opportunity to lecture extensively abroad and published various articles on leadership; with specific emphasis on motivation and group dynamics. I am a strong believer in utilizing a blended and integrated approach in all of the training (including the new material which I developed) I developed which included – Leadership (within a Faith based community), andragogy, and Cultural Diversity management.I am also a graduate of the University of Stellenbosch's Facilitative Leadership Programme (BUVTON), consulting and facilitating with organizations that are "stuck" (- Alice Mann 1998- ) specifically in the process of change management.