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Making Up with Mom
Why Mothers and Daughters Disagree About Kids, Careers, and Casseroles (and What to Do About It)
Julie Halpert(0)
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Young women today have infinitely more options than their mothers and grandmothers did decades ago. "Should I become a doctor, a writer, or a stay-at-home mom?" "Should I get married or live with my boyfriend?" "Do I want children?" Women in their twenties, thirties, and forties today are wrestling with life-altering decisions about work and family-and they need all the support they can get.
But, the very person whose support they crave most-their mother-often can't get on board, and a rift is created between the two generations, even for women who have always had a strong relationship.
A mother's simple question, like "How can you trust a nanny to watch your children all day?" can bring her poised, accomplished CEO daughter to tears, or provoke a nasty response more suitable to a surly teenager than a leader of industry. Why can't mothers and daughters today see eye to eye when it comes to important choices about love, work, children, money, and personal fulfillment? Why does a mother's approval matter so much, even to the most confident and self-possessed daughter? And, when daughters choose paths different from their mothers', why is it so painful for the older generation?
Making Up with Mom answers these important questions by focusing on three core issues: dating/marriage, career, and child rearing. Relying on interviews with nearly a hundred mothers and daughters, and offering helpful tips from more than two dozen therapists, Julie Halpert and Deborah Carr explore a wide range of communication issues and how to resolve them, so mothers and daughters everywhere can reclaim their loving relationships. This enlightening book is a must-read for all women today.
But, the very person whose support they crave most-their mother-often can't get on board, and a rift is created between the two generations, even for women who have always had a strong relationship.
A mother's simple question, like "How can you trust a nanny to watch your children all day?" can bring her poised, accomplished CEO daughter to tears, or provoke a nasty response more suitable to a surly teenager than a leader of industry. Why can't mothers and daughters today see eye to eye when it comes to important choices about love, work, children, money, and personal fulfillment? Why does a mother's approval matter so much, even to the most confident and self-possessed daughter? And, when daughters choose paths different from their mothers', why is it so painful for the older generation?
Making Up with Mom answers these important questions by focusing on three core issues: dating/marriage, career, and child rearing. Relying on interviews with nearly a hundred mothers and daughters, and offering helpful tips from more than two dozen therapists, Julie Halpert and Deborah Carr explore a wide range of communication issues and how to resolve them, so mothers and daughters everywhere can reclaim their loving relationships. This enlightening book is a must-read for all women today.
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"If Nancy Friday's MY MOTHER, MY SELF helped a generation of daughters understand their conflicted relationships with their mothers almost thirty years ago, MAKING UP WITH MOM may well be the book that helps mothers and daughters today understand both themselves and each other. It is a book I've been waiting for."
Deborah Siegel, Ph.D., National Council for Research on Women
"MAKING UP WITH MOM will shine a light on a social phenomenon impacting millions of women, but which has been mostly overlooked in the popular media. . .Absolutely fascinating."
Keith Naughton, Detroit Bureau Chief, Newsweek