A practical, affirming guide to exploring desire differences between partners who identify as either vanilla or kinky in sexual preferences.
More than 80 percent of adult couples in the US report a desire discrepancy between partners-a misalignment not only in frequency of sex but also in what turns them on. Many people harbor fantasies that they feel uncomfortable sharing. With Sprinkles on Top offers a positive and empowering guide to talking about and working through sexual differences-particularly between kinky and non-kinky, or vanilla, partners.
Sex therapist Dr. Stefani Goerlich helps readers explore what excites them, what they want to share with their partner, and how to communicate and try new things. With empathy and understanding, the book addresses the fears experienced on both sides of a desire divide and provides guidance for relationships of many different shapes and orientations. It offers evidence-based facts about BDSM and its effects on relationships, reassurance about what a partner's interests might imply (or not!) support and validation of one's own preferences, and important tips for differentiating between violence and kink. Here, readers will find specific suggestions for protecting, preserving, and strengthening their relationships despite differences in fantasy and desire.
With Sprinkles on Top invites readers into playful and sex-positive exploration and affirms that vanilla and kinky people can thrive together in healthy relationship.
"With Sprinkles on Top is an essential read for partners who are having trouble connecting because they have different fantasies and desires. Stefani Goerlich weaves together research, clinical insight, and practical tips in an accessible and affirming style. Readers will walk away with the tools they need to explore their sexuality and cultivate more satisfying intimate relationships."
Justin J. Lehmiller, PhD, host of the Sex and Psychology Podcast, author of Tell Me What Y
"At a time where kink is becoming more mainstream, this text should be in the hands of everyone who is in kink, kink aware, or kink adjacent. Stefani Goerlich's tactful offering is easily digestible and will help readers feel more informed, more understood, and more reflective of the person they are and who they want to become. With Sprinkles on Top is an excellent resource with compelling content
Marla Renee Stewart, sexologist
"With Sprinkles on Top is for everyone who has ever wondered if they, or their partner, was a pervert. Most of us have sexual desires we're afraid to share for fear of rejection. Goerlich's newest book offers concerned readers the most important possible message: 'You're ordinary.' Even those of us with diverse sexual interests are, at the end of the day, ordinary people. Along the way, you'll lea
David J. Ley, PhD, author of Ethical Porn for Dicks
