Compassion is sometimes, confused with empathy, or even sympathy. It is neither, though it includes some aspects of both. Compassion begins when we allow ourselves to really hear and attune to suffering, that of others, as well as ourselves. And hearing and perceiving this anguish, we are moved to do something about it. What takes compassion beyond sympathy or empathy, is that it includes action, action that is, considered, skillful, and beneficial.
Council is a foundational practice that builds our capacity to perceive the experience of others and invites us to pay attention. When we listen differently to someone's story, without judging, we create the conditions for compassion to arise. Council asks us to lean in, to learn ways we can skillfully attend to the pain we recognize in ourselves, and others, and to do something helpful, in response. This book is an invitation to build the muscle of compassion, through exercises and practices that enhance our capacity to listen from the heart and, in so doing, take care of ourselves, and those, around us.
