Grief is very hard work and the worst grief is your own. After a devastating loss I put my grief work on hold, until I thought there would be a more convenient season. I had two grieving teenagers, worked 120 hours every two weeks and I was going to school to get my BSN in nursing. When I least expected it, the impact of the loss overwhelmed me. If something triggered me, I would burst into tears, during the most inopportune times. Grief work is a step-by-step process, and it can not be rushed. The presence of loved ones and friends helped. It was almost easier if no words were spoken. I was reminded of Job's comforters. The most comforting friend was the one who remained present with him and said nothing. To self soothe, I read, I prayed, I wept and I searched the scriptures, as well as any information that would help me through the grieving process. It was during my searching, both scriptures and information, that brought me the most relief. Jesus had truly sent His Comforter, which I was so grateful for! It was during those very difficult hours that the Holy Spirit prompted me to write a handbook on how to process and move through the grieving process. Grief work cannot be ignored. Denial is a functional coping strategy for a short period of time, to get important things done, but it truly can not be put off for long.
