From the New York Times bestselling author of “The Power of Habit”, an investigation of what makes conversations work, and how we can all learn to be super communicators at work and in our lives.
We all know people who seem capable of connecting with almost anyone. They are the ones we turn to for advice, the ones who ask deep questions but also seem to hear what we are trying to say. What do they know about conversation that makes them so special? And what can they tell us about how communication really works?
Super communicators, Charles Duhigg argues, understand-some by intuition, some by hard-won experience-that there is a science to how human beings connect through words. They understand that whenever we speak, we're actually participating in one of three distinct conversations: What is this really about? How do we feel? And who are we? They know the importance of recognizing-and then matching-each kind of conversation, and how to hear the complex emotions, subtle negotiations and hidden beliefs that color and inform everything we say. Our pasts, our values, our affiliations-our identities-shape every discussion we have, from who will pick up the kids to how we want to be treated at work.
With his trademark insight and clarity, Duhigg shows readers how to recognize these three conversations-and teaches us the skills we need to navigate them more successfully. Communication is a superpower. By bringing readers into jury deliberations and fraught CIA recruitments, into Netflix's company-wide conversations about equity and the writers' room of “The Big Bang Theory”, we learn why some people are able to make themselves heard-and to hear others-so clearly. We learn how to recognize and leverage the hidden layers that lurk beneath every conversation. In the end, we learn a simple but powerful lesson: We can connect with anyone.
