Unf**k Your Communication

In so many facets of our lives, it can be surprisingly hard to speak up, listen well, and find mutual understanding. At some point, all of us will experience an unfortunate miscommunication with a friend or intimate partner, and sometimes there's just no escaping a difficult conversation with a family member or colleague.
Rather than eating your words or running from confrontation, learn to communicate confidently and listen empathetically with the help of Dr. Faith G. Harper, bestselling author of Unfuck Your Brain and Unfuck Your Intimacy. In this no-nonsense guide, you'll find conversational templates, guidance for setting boundaries, and tips for talking effectively at home, at work, at school, in everyday encounters, and even with social services and other bureaucratic entities-all of which form a handy toolkit for successful communication. Introduction
Grounding Exercise: The Reorientation Countdown
What Makes Up Our Communication
Types of Communication
Styles of Communication - Aggressive
Styles of Communication - Passive
Styles of Communication - Assertive
Some Questions to Reflect On
Strategies for Communication
Levels of Communication
So How Does Our Communication Get Fucked Up?
Unfuck Your Communication
The Communication Commandments
Using "I" Statements
Communicating What We Want instead of What We Don't
Handling No
S.T.F.U.
Communicating Support
What Does Support Look Like for The Other Person?
And When It's Really Bad?
Communicating Consent: Boundaries
How Do the People in Your Life Respond to Your Boundaries?
Questions for Determining If a Boundary Is Safely Enforceable
How to Communicate When We Fail to Respect Other People's Boundaries
Questions to Consider
When No Remains No: When Do You Need to Justify Your Boundaries?
Communicating Through Uncomfortable Topics
Communicating about Sex
The Feedback Burrito
Communicating about Religion
How to Shut Down Shitty Comments
Communicating about Politics
How to Engage Respectfully Around Politics
What if the Political Beliefs Are ... Cultlike?
Communicating about Addiction Recovery and Mental Health Treatment
Communicating about Food
Communicating about Money
When It Is a Partner
Other People Fucking Up My Finances
Communicating Through Conflict
Resolving Conflict
Is It Intentional?
Who You Really Mad At, Cupcake?
Humor Rather Than Snipe
Beware the Horsemen
Ask for What You Need and Negotiate on Preferences
Conflict Communication Tool: Collaborative Communication
Conflict Communication Tool: Objective Effectiveness
Tools for When Negotiation Shuts Down
BIFF Responses
Brief
Informative
Friendly
Firm
Advice
Admonishments
Apologies
The Pane of Glass Trick
The Grey Rock Method
Communicating in Systems
Self-Communication: Reframing Toxic Self-Talk
Compassionate Letter to Oneself
Conclusion
Appendix: Toxic Relational Strategies in Communication
Questions to Consider As You Go Through This List
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