Key Barrett felt he didn't understand chastity well enough to be comfortable writing about the motivations and emotional aspects behind it. So, he spoke with his wife, and together they agreed he should be 'locked up' for seven days to chronicle his feelings. She, in turn, agreed to hold the key, only unlocking him if he needed it for safety reasons, to make sure everything is working properly, or if she had sexual interest in freeing him. By the third day he was feeling butterflies just when his wife touched his hand. By day four, she noticed he was much more engaged in their household and being an active and proactive partner. What started as a week for him quickly became two weeks for them both to journal.
Through chastity and communication, they identified a sexual trade-off that existed in their marriage, a 'barter system' wherein every action he engaged in had an undercurrent of sexual pressure. Freed from it through a chastity device, they were able to enjoy each other on a more meaningful and trusting level. And in lowering the quantity of sex, they raised the quality. This book takes what they learned, plus surveys and research derived from male chastity users, and shows couples how they too can end the barter system, increase communication and bring back the courtship phase, butterflies and all.
