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Despite decades of activism by feminists and their allies, women and their children continue to be killed by their partners and former partners in shocking numbers, leading the federal government to describe intimate partner violence (IPV) as an epidemic in Canada. Why have we failed to respond effectively to a social problem that affects millions of women and children?
After working for more than three decades with survivors, frontline workers, and the systems they turn to for help, lawyer Pamela Cross provides an in-depth look at intimate partner violence in Canada. And Sometimes They Kill You untangles what intimate partner violence is, the barriers to its eradication, and what we could be doing to eliminate those barriers. Told in an engaging and accessible fashion, the book weaves together Cross' personal experiences and reflections on what she has learned with the heartbreaking stories of victims, survivors, and the alarming but convincing data. Cross offers practical and hopeful ideas for how each of us can engage in the vital work of eradicating intimate partner violence. This a call-to-action for the all-of-society, revolutionary response to gender-based violence needed to build communities that are safe and healthy for everyone. This a call-to-action for the all-of-society, revolutionary response to gender-based violence needed to build communities that are safe and healthy for everyone.
"Deeply personal, honouring both the stories Cross has been entrusted with, as well as her own, And Sometimes They Kill You is honest, authentic, informative, and compassionate. Cross leaves us with a strategic and hopeful path forward. You'll want to read every word."
"And Sometimes They Kill You is an impeccably subversive roadmap for anyone interested in an end to gender-based violence. Cross orchestrates decades of professional and personal experience into a no-nonsense harmony of truth and knowledge-sharing."
"And Sometimes They Kill You is a powerful must-read for our times. With rates of intimate partner violence and femicide on the rise, there is no one better positioned to examine this issue than Pamela Cross. With the honesty and integrity that comes with decades of intentional collaborative grassroots experience and honouring of survivors' stories, Cross offers a powerful truth-telling of the state of intimate partner violence and the systems that perpetuate it. Her thoughtful and innovative solutions provide readers with practical strategies to effect change. Most importantly, we are left with a message of hope to fuel our resolve to act for that change."
"With sharp analysis carved from years of being on the frontlines, Pamela Cross gives us a behind-the-scenes look at the reality of intimate partner violence and femicide in Canada. Focusing on root causes and pathways to justice, Cross gives readers the necessary tools to create a world where women are free from men's violence. A better world is possible and this book gives us the blueprint."
"In this important and timely book, Pamela Cross weaves together the stories of survivors of intimate partner violence with her decades-long experience as an advocate to lay bare the multiple ways that law and other social institutions have failed to keep women and children safe. Cross offers insights into the root causes of intimate partner violence, the myths and stereotypes that impede our understanding, and the challenges survivors encounter in the legal system. Her reflections on her own learning and unlearning over time reinforce her message that if we bring humility, an openness to the perspectives of others, and energy for collaborative work, collectively we have the capacity to create spaces of safety for women and children and to eradicate intimate partner violence. Cross argues that we each have a role to play. And Sometimes They Kill You is exactly the resource we need to prepare for that role."
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After working for more than three decades with survivors, frontline workers, and the systems they turn to for help, lawyer Pamela Cross provides an in-depth look at intimate partner violence in Canada. And Sometimes They Kill You untangles what intimate partner violence is, the barriers to its eradication, and what we could be doing to eliminate those barriers. Told in an engaging and accessible fashion, the book weaves together Cross' personal experiences and reflections on what she has learned with the heartbreaking stories of victims, survivors, and the alarming but convincing data. Cross offers practical and hopeful ideas for how each of us can engage in the vital work of eradicating intimate partner violence. This a call-to-action for the all-of-society, revolutionary response to gender-based violence needed to build communities that are safe and healthy for everyone. This a call-to-action for the all-of-society, revolutionary response to gender-based violence needed to build communities that are safe and healthy for everyone.
"Deeply personal, honouring both the stories Cross has been entrusted with, as well as her own, And Sometimes They Kill You is honest, authentic, informative, and compassionate. Cross leaves us with a strategic and hopeful path forward. You'll want to read every word."
"And Sometimes They Kill You is an impeccably subversive roadmap for anyone interested in an end to gender-based violence. Cross orchestrates decades of professional and personal experience into a no-nonsense harmony of truth and knowledge-sharing."
"And Sometimes They Kill You is a powerful must-read for our times. With rates of intimate partner violence and femicide on the rise, there is no one better positioned to examine this issue than Pamela Cross. With the honesty and integrity that comes with decades of intentional collaborative grassroots experience and honouring of survivors' stories, Cross offers a powerful truth-telling of the state of intimate partner violence and the systems that perpetuate it. Her thoughtful and innovative solutions provide readers with practical strategies to effect change. Most importantly, we are left with a message of hope to fuel our resolve to act for that change."
"With sharp analysis carved from years of being on the frontlines, Pamela Cross gives us a behind-the-scenes look at the reality of intimate partner violence and femicide in Canada. Focusing on root causes and pathways to justice, Cross gives readers the necessary tools to create a world where women are free from men's violence. A better world is possible and this book gives us the blueprint."
"In this important and timely book, Pamela Cross weaves together the stories of survivors of intimate partner violence with her decades-long experience as an advocate to lay bare the multiple ways that law and other social institutions have failed to keep women and children safe. Cross offers insights into the root causes of intimate partner violence, the myths and stereotypes that impede our understanding, and the challenges survivors encounter in the legal system. Her reflections on her own learning and unlearning over time reinforce her message that if we bring humility, an openness to the perspectives of others, and energy for collaborative work, collectively we have the capacity to create spaces of safety for women and children and to eradicate intimate partner violence. Cross argues that we each have a role to play. And Sometimes They Kill You is exactly the resource we need to prepare for that role."
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